I hate my own country India. What should I do?

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I hate my own country India. What should I do?

Embracing the Feelings of Discontent

It only took a moment of self-reflection to realise something that had been subtly simmering beneath the surface for quite some time. It was the discomforting realization that I, Arvind, born and bred in the heart of India, seem to have developed an intense dislike towards my homeland. Now, don't get me wrong. Just because I am expressing these concerns, it doesn't mean that I am unpatriotic, or a traitor of sorts. It's simply a revelation that I believe many of us occasionally stray into but seldom discuss.

Often, such strong feelings stem from an assortment of factors, be it social frustrations, lack of professional opportunities, or perhaps even personal grievances. As an expat living in Sydney, Australia, my perspective towards India and its societal norms have evolved over time, fostering an emotionally charged discourse within myself. The very essence of this introspection initiated an interesting, occasionally frustrating conversation, leading me to pen down this stirring yet positive piece.

Identifying the Root of the Issue

Before plunging into any drastic measures driven by hatred, let's amend the terminology a little. For some readers, the term 'hate' might be far-fetched. After all, how can one hate a country, especially the one that they have born and brought up in? Hence, the first step to address this predicament is to introspect and identify the factors that contribute to this feeling of hostility towards one's own homeland.

India, with all its charisma and charm, has its own set of quirks and challenges. Looming overpopulation, perennially gridlocked traffic, often vexing bureaucracy, and deep-set societal prejudices are potent drivers that might foster scepticism amongst its populace and drive them away. It is essential to pinpoint the exact causes that propel one into harbouring resentment towards their homeland before deciding to part ways completely.

Exploring the Notion of 'Reverse Culture Shock'

'Reverse culture shock' is a term often associated with those returning to their native country after an extended period abroad and finding everything estranged. However, can the same concept apply to someone who is still physically separated from their home country but mentally feels the strain of cultural disparity? This was a question that resonated with me, sparking an exploration into the psychological aspect of my distaste.

Back home, things that were once taken for granted, like the familiar sights and sounds, heavily spiced foods, sometimes overbearing familial love, or even certain societal norms, started feeling alien. Living in Australia with my spouse, Leila, I experienced differing societal values, norms, and expectations, leading to this bitter-sweet epiphany of revulsion towards my own country.

The Power of Perspective and Acceptance

Elucidating on personal revelations and complaints against the Indian society or system feels like licking an old wound. Times when you mumble about how things are 'so much better in Sydney' may seem innocent, but they subtly build negative connotations associated with your native culture and norms. Although, a pivot in perspective can offer monumental transformations to this mind-set.

Having a heart-to-heart chat with my thoughtful spouse, Leila, was one such pivot. We dissected my frustrations and concerns one-by-one, discussing them in the light of the broader perspectives of cultural diversity and relativity. India's multifaceted challenges and characteristics are ingrained in its deep history and evolving socio-cultural landscape. Embracing this profundity with acceptance and open-mindedness is a step towards attenuating feelings of hostility.

Addressing Concerns through Involvement and Efforts

Quick-fix solutions and evident changes are rarities within a nation as layered as India. Constructive approaches such as contributing to change-making initiatives, expressing viewpoints through digital platforms, or even actively participating in grassroots movements can gradually alleviate the sense of helplessness.

Understanding that making an actual difference may take considerable time, even generations, may ease the burden off an individual and negative perceptions only act as a barrier in this journey. Offline and online activism, sustained dialogues, and participation in progressive communities can be few of the paths where you can channelize your energy instead of harboring disdain.

Is Leaving an Option?

"If you don't like it, just leave" - a suggestion we often hear it, but it's easier said than done, isn't it? The relationship with one's homeland isn't a mundane experience that can simply be replaced by a new one. It's a delicate fabric of memories, roots, culture, and love that cannot easily be unpicked and tossed away.

However, for some, leaving might eventually be the appropriate course of action. It's a deeply personal decision and shouldn't be made in haste or be influenced by temporary emotions. Living in a foreign land isn't idyllic as it might have its own set of problems and challenges. Hence, understanding the reality of immigration and adapting to a new lifestyle involves ample simulation and planning.

To conclude, I don't hate India. In fact, I adore it with all its idiosyncrasies and imperfections. My feelings of dislike are more about the issues that plague the country, which I earnestly hope to change. Harnessing these emotions into a catalyst for positive change seems like a healthier and more productive approach. So, for everyone out there nodding in agreement, let's get moving and be a part of this dynamic shift that India is capable of, shall we?

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